Sometimes the mind meanders when
it gets a glimpse of something and shows you a whole different perspective of
an issue you thought you had resolved.
That is exactly what happened to
me this morning. I was at the salon getting my hair fixed and Easy FM was the
station tuned. I can’t remember the specifics of the conversation Munene (the
radio presenter) was having but it took me back to the advert that was airing
on the Kenyan TV stations a few weeks back.
The advert theme was “Weka Condom
Mpangoni”. It featured a lady (lady number one) who meets her friend (lady
number two) at the market they start discussing about lady number one’s
husband. Lady number one has nothing good to say of her sorry case of her hubby
and lady number two asks about her side-kick; whereby lady number one responds
amidst giggles. Then lady number two advices her friend to remember to use a
condom in her shenanigans. You can view the clip
here.
The video caused so much controversy amongst different
individuals it was banned from airing.
But the fact is; statistics show that most people
spreading and getting infected with the HIV virus are married (point to ponder
upon). I for a fact was against the airing of the video. It goes against every
bone in my body and my beliefs too. But was that the best way to deal with the
issue?
The human tendency usually upon confrontation with the
truth; we tend to push it further or even ignore it. No one likes to face
controversies. No one likes being questioned. No one likes to move out of their
comfort area. People like an easy life; where everything is sunshine and roses.
We forget it’s during the winter beneath the bitter cold ice lies a seed that
with the coming of the spring and the tender kisses of the sun becomes a rose.
I do not yet have a solution on how to deal with the
problem (infidelity). But all my life I have been taught once you make that
decision to get married; it shouldn’t come from a whim of the moment. Love
fades, we’ve all experienced that. But when you say those vows, you should mean
it. And if you are a person of integrity, you’ll follow through with the vows
you said. The grass is always greener where it is watered. If you think the
relationship between you and your side-kick is better than your relationship
with your significant other; then that is where you are watering your grass.
